The World... According to Americans.

A couple months back, one of my fist posts I believe, I wrote about how Americans do not understand the concept of being told no. We grow up with our parents telling us that we can become president do whatever we want; however, its said with such ease that it takes away from the concept of how hard some people work to achieve their dreams. I am brought back to this topic because of recent tragedy in Pittsburgh, man kills three in gym.

After reading this article it is so sad to see that a man seriously took out all his inadequacies on everyone else. How can someone be so sick in the head that they dont realize that something is wrong with them, not with the thousand of people who they have had social interaction with. Hell my life would so much easier if I could blame my neighbors for my lawn not getting mowed, or if I was pissed at the kid next to me for not getting me better grades in school, or pissed at my college because I'm not making $100,000 like some stupid bitch is. Seriously, there is a girl suing her college because she doesnt have a job. Like the job was supposed to just be waiting there for her, just the way your dog waits for you to get home.

Humans are not perfect, nobody is perfect, yet some people fail to recognize they have any flaws. Is this the parents fault? I dont know, but its taking its toll on the public. Columbine, Virginia Tech, this Gym, I am sure there are thousands maybe millions of other examples, but these are the easiest to come up with. If as a race we want to last and go to places we would have never thought, we will have to learn how to deal with rejection. That's how it goes. The world is not there to deliver all that you would like, i.e. a girlfriend, without hardwork. Maybe you need to find a girl with similar intrests, that can be tough, but she has to be out there, so work at it. Maybe girls get turned off by you because of what you look like, how you act, or something else. Well, instead of killing someone over it go work out, go make friends and learn to interact, and most importantly use these things a guide/lesson to help you become a better person, not to ruin hundreds of peoples lives in just an instant. Yes only 3 people died, but those three people had family, friends, and co-workers who counted on them and now they have been taken away from them with no explanaiton, which can be the hardest part of coping with a death.

For the sake of the general public, AMERICA I implore you please learn to see your own faults instead of blaming everything on everyone else.

T.O. was my friend

Recently I had a terrible experience with having to deal with a T.O type character. What made this real tough is that it was within my circle of friends. For at least myself, I do not want to talk for the others, I know I was definitely blinded by his charisma for quite some time just like T.O has done to three, now four teams. His smile is huge, he talks the talk, and he just seems so sincere. Hell ya I was a T.O. fan when he came to the cowboys. I thought he was a game changer, kinda like this old acquaintance. However, just as in football as soon as the times get tough the small things start to come out and little by little they build and build and ends up becoming a whole soap opera mess with the media spreading half truths all around.

But the time had come. The Executives for three different teams had had enough, just as my circle just couldnt take the drama anymore. Never have I known a single male individual to cause so much drama within a group of friends. I didnt realize it but this guy who I always thought of as being the most confident guy and what not was actually quite the opposite. He needed the attention to make himself feel good. He was the opposite of confident, atleast thats what I think. You should have confidence in yourself because you know you can, not because some group of friends you just convinced otherwise are now agreeing with you.

It only became more apparent that he had self-confidence issues when he would just start bashing our friends for just about everything they would do. I myself took up yoga and of course it instantly became the butt of his jokes for however long, I guess to make himself feel better. Not sure why, might have had to do with his consistant talk of how he was going to have a 6 pack by then of June.. no July.. no Aug, it was always getting pushed back for him, so maybe he was upset I was actually doing something active or maybe he was upset because it was not with him. Ya he is that lame. He is the guy that needs to be invited to everything or he'll invite himself over, just like everyday after work. I love all my friends and I think they would all say the same about me... that they know in any situation needed i'd be there, but arent their certain situations when one likes to be alone at home to contemplate and relax after working all day? Not for him.

Anyways, after looking back on the facts, which I wont bore you with because that would just be petty. I came across an article on relationships that I actually think translates well into friendships as well. I cant find it on the net, but it has 8 main points about Dating/Being with a 'Loser'

1) Rough Treatment - basically anything that includes getting hit

2) Jumps Right into "I Love You" - includes showering you with gifts, spending the rest of their life with you; more than likely this means they have shallow emotions and are looking for someone to attach themselves to in order to validate their own self-esteem issues.

3) Confidence Killers - always putting you down basically, never good enough

4) Breakup Panic-ers - they make wild promises, will do ANYTHING

5) Prison takers - you're not alowed to have outside intrests, everyone is a bad influence on you, but not them, they criticize what you enjoy doing on your own (ahem, yoga), basically they want to cut you off from any other influences

6) You never do enough - self explanatory

7) The Paranoid Controllers - have to know where and what you're doing ALL the time, if you dont answer the phone they want to know why, etc

8) Wild Story specialist - say just about anything to get your attention including saying their mom is in the hospital even though its not true.

One Nighters

It has come to my attention that the one night stand has become increasingly less popular... especially with age. What gives? Why not have a good time, maybe you just had a rough day, maybe its your birthday, maybe he/she is hot... who cares, it was in the moment, it felt right, why not.

Well apparently that's not the case to a lot of people. Is it jealousy, is it how they were raised, is it that maybe they dont enjoy it as much? Who knows... I for one enjoy the company of a cute girl. I dont quite understand the concept of why it is looked down upon so much. I find that if he/she meets a someone of interest out on the town that life is way to short to think what if; however, if he/she is running around every weekend with a different guy that is a little different, in my opinion. I just dont see what the big deal is if you are genuinely attracted to someone why you have to play some game of cat and mouse to see who wants who more, or who has the power of this and that... politics is it in fucking everything?

Not only is there the overall issue of the 'one night stand,' but it is also EXTREMELY biased towards the females. When a guy sleeps with a couple hot girls he is seen as a 'pimp,' 'the man,' etc., but when a girl does the same thing she is looked down upon as being 'easy, 'loose,' etc. Granted I am not a girl so I dont exactly know, but from all the drama I have observed in my quarter century of existence it seems that girls are much harsher on each other about it.

I am not exactly saying for everyone to run around sleeping with each other, but if something feels right why go against it? Science goes beyond my vocabulary to explain the most ridiculous phenomenons with elaborate hypotheses and everyone believes it. When two people are attracted to each other doesnt that just make sense? I dont know, maybe i am less inhibited than others, or maybe I am just wierd.

Do your thing, whatever that may be.